Dr. Shiloh's Blog
Boundaries vs. Barriers — Why You’re Not Protecting Yourself the Way You Think
For many people, the phrase “I’m setting boundaries” really means… “I’m building walls because I don’t feel safe.”
And there’s a reason for that. Most of us were never taught the difference between a healthy boundary an...
Detachment Isn’t Disconnection: How to Protect Your Peace Without Closing Your Heart
For so many people, the idea of detaching triggers immediate guilt. We worry that if we detach…
- we’ll become cold
- we’ll stop caring
- we’ll look selfish
- we’ll push people away
- we’ll lose the compassion that ma...
If you’ve ever wondered, “Why did I react like THAT?”, you’re not alone. Triggers are one of the most confusing emotional experiences people face, and yet, most of us were never taught what a trigger actually is or why it happens. So let’s break it down in a way that is simple, compassionate, and de...
For a long time, I thought I had a strong sense of identity. I would tell myself, I respect myself. But when I really stopped to think about it, that certainty started to unravel. Did I truly know who I was, or did I just have a good idea of who other people thought I was? Was I living in alignment ...
How Do You Feel When Someone Says No to You?
Have you ever stopped to think about how you react when someone tells you no? At first glance, the answer might seem obvious: "I’m fine with it." But when I took the time to really sit with that question, I discovered my feelings were far more complicate...
For many families, mom is the glue that holds everything together—the one who manages schedules, keeps the household running, and ensures everyone is taken care of. But what happens when the glue suddenly comes undone due to illness or an unexpected crisis?
Life can throw unexpected challenges, and...
Depression is a term we hear often, but it’s not always easy to recognize, especially when it doesn’t manifest in the stereotypical ways we might expect. For many mothers and working professionals, depression can be an invisible struggle, masked by busy schedules, endless responsibilities, and the n...