Dr. Shiloh's Blog
Most of us have imagined the conversation.
The one where the person who hurt us finally admits what they did. They look us in the eye, acknowledge the pain they caused, and offer a sincere apology. In our minds, that moment becomes the turning point. We tell ourselves that once it happens, we can f...
One of the most common relationship questions I have encountered throughout my career is surprisingly simple: Why do they always seem to come back when I am finally doing better?
The details may change from person to person, but the pattern is remarkably consistent. Someone spends months grieving t...
One of the saddest statements I hear in counseling is not, “We got divorced.” It is not even, “They betrayed me.”
It is this, “I don’t even know who I am anymore.”
When people say those words, they are usually not describing something that happened overnight. They are describing a slow disappearan...
One of the most frustrating experiences in any relationship is finding yourself having the same conversation over and over again while nothing actually changes.
You explain your needs. You communicate your limits. You clarify your expectations. You carefully choose your words and do your best to re...
Have you ever reacted to something and then immediately wondered, Where did that come from?
Maybe it was a text message that rubbed you the wrong way. Maybe someone made an offhand comment that seemed harmless to everyone else but hit you like a punch to the gut. Maybe your spouse, coworker, teenag...
