Dr. Shiloh's Blog
There are things in my life I genuinely thought would look different by now.
I don't mean that in the inspirational, “everything happens for a reason” kind of way. I mean there have been things I worked for, prayed about, made changes for, went to therapy over, and genuinely believed would eventual...
One of the most common boundary struggles I see in therapy is this:
People do not just say no. They explain it. They defend it. They justify it. And often they apologize for it.
But the truth is, saying no should not require an essay.
Why People Over-Explain Their Boundaries
Over-explaining is r...
Most of us grow up believing that being nice is a virtue. We are praised for being agreeable. Rewarded for being accommodating. Encouraged to avoid conflict.
But there is a subtle point where kindness stops being healthy and begins turning into self-abandonment. And many people never realize when t...
