Dr. Shiloh's Blog
There are things in my life I genuinely thought would look different by now.
I don't mean that in the inspirational, “everything happens for a reason” kind of way. I mean there have been things I worked for, prayed about, made changes for, went to therapy over, and genuinely believed would eventual...
You finally got what you wanted. The difficult season ended. The relationship became stable, or maybe the unhealthy one finally ended. Your children are okay. Work isn't constantly on fire. Nobody is demanding that you fix something. Life is quieter.
So why aren't you enjoying it more? Why are you ...
One of the most common boundary struggles I see in therapy is this:
People do not just say no. They explain it. They defend it. They justify it. And often they apologize for it.
But the truth is, saying no should not require an essay.
Why People Over-Explain Their Boundaries
Over-explaining is r...
The Art of the Pause - Why Responding Is More Powerful Than Reacting
Most of our regrets in life didn’t come from what we said. They came from what we said before thinking. Before pausing.
We reacted. We got overwhelmed. We felt pressured. We felt triggered. We answered too quickly. And afterward,...
