Dr. Shiloh's Blog
I heard a psychologist say recently that people-pleasing can be a low-level form of narcissism. My immediate reaction was basically, Well, that’s offensive. Mostly because I thought they might have a point.
Now, before anyone gets upset, I am absolutely not saying that being a people pleaser means ...
You finally got what you wanted. The difficult season ended. The relationship became stable, or maybe the unhealthy one finally ended. Your children are okay. Work isn't constantly on fire. Nobody is demanding that you fix something. Life is quieter.
So why aren't you enjoying it more? Why are you ...
Have you ever finished an exhausting day, looked around, and still felt like you somehow came up short? The emails were answered. The laundry was folded. The appointments were kept. The meetings happened. The kids were taken care of. The workout was finished.
Yet instead of feeling accomplished, yo...
Have you ever reacted to something and then immediately wondered, Where did that come from?
Maybe it was a text message that rubbed you the wrong way. Maybe someone made an offhand comment that seemed harmless to everyone else but hit you like a punch to the gut. Maybe your spouse, coworker, teenag...
There’s a specific kind of frustration that comes from wanting to move forward and still feeling completely unable to do it. Not lazy. Not unmotivated. Not careless. Just stuck.
And if you’ve never experienced nervous system overwhelm before, it can feel deeply confusing because logically, you know...
You can know all the right things. You can understand your patterns. You can read the books. You can tell yourself to calm down. And still, your body reacts.
That’s because healing isn’t just cognitive. It’s physiological.
Your nervous system is constantly scanning for safety and responding before...
